Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Put a Ring On It?

Mr. C's lost wedding ring

So Mr. C lost his wedding ring.  On Thanksgiving Day, cooking the turkey.  We're not sure if it actually dropped into the cavity of the bird, slipped into the garbage, or got boiled with the carcass for soup, but that is the day we know it disappeared.  My question is not so much "where is it?" or "did someone actually ingest it?" but more importantly,
"is it a big deal if he wears a ring at all?" 

 Honestly, I thought I would be really freaked at first, but as it turns out I hardly notice his naked hand anymore.  I think early in our marriage I might have made a stink about the whole situation, but now I'm a little indifferent, leaving the decision up to him.  Lots of men are forgoing the traditional ring thing in favor of bare hands these days (Prince William being one of them), but does that give off the perception that their commitment is less than that of a man that wears a ring?  Does it appear disrespectful to the wife?  I used to think so, but now that I am married to a ringless fellow, I don't feel that way.

 My belief is that the proof is in the conduct and the commitment in one's heart; not the symbol that is worn for the world to see.
What do you think? 



1 comment:

  1. Interesting! I'm not sure how I'd feel. First instinct would be to replace it. Prince William is going ringless, though not like anyone in the world knows he's not married! Beyonce does say you better do it. But I think it all comes down to how you feel about it!

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